I’m at a point in my life where I feel I should be accomplishing more than I already have. That I should be doing something purposeful and worthwhile. I know that everybody is different and we all have our own paths to take but I just see everyone around me and I feel like I haven’t done much or progressed as much as I should be. It’s frustrating honestly.
There are points where the thought of not knowing causes me to panic that I may not amount to much while everybody else is getting everything they dream of. I am completely aware of the dangers of comparing yourself to others but you know you can’t help it. It’s too easy to want what you don’t have.
I constantly worry that what I studied for in college was a waste and I look around and ask myself well – what is every else doing?
The only person I should be comparing myself to and competing against is myself. I’ve made a lot of decisions based off what others were doing or what others wanted just to please them and I was so stupid lol.
I’ve met people saying they’ve got no clue what they want to do. I feel ya. The feeling of uneasiness about not knowing doesn’t stem from myself but from society and from people who are constantly asking me about it.
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When they ask and I answer I don’t know, I get the sense that they think I’m lazy or that I don’t have goals or aspirations for myself.
That’s far from the truth.
I know I want to be successful. I know I want to help others and help them live better quality lives. I’ve got an idea of what I want to do and that helps but aside from that, I’ve got no clue.
And you know what I think causes this uncertainty?
It’s the stigma that we’re at an age where we should have everything figured out. By giving us a time frame on discovering who we are and what we’re meant to do in our lives is what causes people to settle for jobs they’re not happy in or to conform with what’s “acceptable” for everybody else.
Like, how ignorant is that?
Oh but you NEED to know what you want and have everything figured out by the time you’re out of high school or college because if not, you’re a failure.
I call total BS. Shame on you society.
We are enclosed in an educational setting up until our 20s, conformed to deadlines, all-nighters, and authority. Then one day, what, am I expected to know what I want to do by pulling it out of my ass? We’re still too young to know. Besides, our 20’s is the time of exploring who we are. To make mistakes. To make memories. And to most importantly, learn and grow.
But you know what I realized?
It’s ok not to know what you want to do, and this goes for anyone. You would know that everybody goes through life at different paces and everybody defines their own success differently.
Success is subjective.
There’s not an ideal way to be “successful.” And it can be anything. Losing weight, traveling, passing that class, helping others, getting married, etc. Just know that life is not about working towards a specific point in your life.
So you reach that point…now what?
I believe it’s ok.
Well, we have the opportunity to try new things and explore new places and that’s the beauty of not knowing…if that makes sense. We’re constantly changing and growing, so why shouldn’t our goals, aspirations, and careers change and grow as well?
There’s no rule book dictating what we can or can’t do. These changes, the indecisiveness, the experimentation, can actually benefit us in the long run. What’s the point have step-by-step instructions on how we’re supposed to live our lives when we can explore what is curious to us so that we can make mistakes and grow from them.
All I’m saying is that if you have the slightest inkling of what you want to do, great! You have something to go off of. Even if you have the drive to figure out what you want to do or to find your purpose, well you’re one step closer to figuring it all out. If you’re like me and want to do so many things at once, that’s fine. It can be overwhelming at times, yes but it can still be frustrating not having something set to guide us.
If you don’t, there’s no need to worry. You’re not alone because there are many people out there experiencing the same thing as you are. There’s no need to panic. There should be no rush to find out. Embrace the uncertainty of not knowing cause it may lead you to something you may actually love. Make it serendipitous.
Fill yourself and your life with positivity and don’t be anxious or worried about the present circumstances. It may seem like it’ll never end. It may seem like you can’t get out of this rut or out of this hole that’s been dug so deep that you can’t see the light.
Just know, if you feel this way, you’re not the only one. I’m on the same boat as you…aaaand so is probably the majority of the population on this planet lol.
I say enjoy the process of finding out. Create those precious memories, learn as much as you can while you can, and be proud of how far you’ve come in this crazy messed up journey we call life.
We were put on this Earth for a reason. We may not know why but I hope that you continue pushing through because
ONE. DAY. YOU. WILL.
And the moment you realize what it is, all the struggles and obstacles you’ve gone through…
It would all be worth it.
Don’t worry, you’ll get there. We all will. 🙂
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Until next time,