Up until recently, I’ve just been going with the flow of life. I was complacent with the friends that I had, with the job that I pursued, and with the experienced that I encountered all because I thought that I deserved it. Whether it was good or bad, I thought that it was how things were meant to play out and I had to just accept it.
My job made me miserable and my mental health suffered as a result of that. I would constantly be crying out of the blue, resent having to go into work, and I would isolate myself because I didn’t want to be a burden to anybody. I didn’t know how to cope with my negative thoughts and emotions and I was living a miserable life. It wasn’t until I was let go of the job that I had clarity. I started to realize what I needed to be focusing on. I needed to stop accepting things as they come and start taking action.
I’ve come back time and time again to my blog because I love how blogging makes me feel. I’m starting to give myself permission to express my creativity and achieve the dream of creating the life that I want for me. I realize that I am the top priority and my mental health needs to be taken care of. I realize that I don’t want to work for anybody and that I want to be my own boss. I’ve come far in my journey to creating that life I want and I’m letting you know that if you wish to stop being stagnant and starting building memories and the life you want for yourself, you need to start now.
It is time now for you to stop letting the negative, toxic, or “impossible” get in your way from creating the life that you want. You deserve every blessing that the world has to offer and you need to be willing to be open to opportunities that are presented to you in order for you to flourish.
I’ve composed 10 tips that will help you kickstart your journey into creating the life that you want.
1. Attitude
I believe this was the primary thing that blocked my ability from thinking positively. I always felt that it what was given to me that made me miserable but in reality, I was making myself miserable with my negative attitude.
Also, I’m completing my Master’s degree in Counseling and Guidance and this program has thought me that our attitude dictates all of our behaviors and actions. By changing your mindset, you can open many doors that will enhance the life that you want for yourself.
This self-improvement podcast called Earn Your Happy speaks to me on a deeper level. It’s like she’s speaking to me.
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2. Love yourself
Love yourself first before you love others.
I always tried to please other people because that is where I supposedly found my happiness and love. I always found some way to find love in other people when I should have looked for it in me. You may not like what you see in the mirror or maybe you struggle with low self-esteem/self-worth, but nothing is more valuable than not being ashamed to love yourself for your flaws and imperfections.
Take the time to give yourself some love. Try practicing positive affirmations every morning to start your day on the right foot.
3. Get your mind out of the way
Our minds can play dirty tricks on us. Making us think that we are not good enough, that we won’t amount to anything, or even that we won’t succeed.
Believe me when I tell you that you just have to tell that inner critic to shut up because it is getting in the way of building the life that you want. Just like how you would stand up to people who treat you bad, it’s the same to stand up to that inner critic but we can be our biggest obstacle to living a fulfilling life.
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4. Listen to your gut
Your intuition is never wrong. Whenever you have that “gut feeling” about something, go with it. Regardless if it’s good or bad, your intuition is letting you know to either help you avoid what is going to hurt you or to guide you on the right path of true happiness.
5. Practice/show gratitude
One of the things that have truly changed that way I view things is practicing gratitude. You can read more about incorporating gratitude into your life by reading the blog post below.
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6. Invest in yourself
I believe one of the best ways to create the life that you want is to invest in yourself. I’m not saying spend all of your life’s savings on you.
What I mean by investing in yourself, is to take the time to reflect on what you want to manifest in your life. Do stuff that is meaningful to you.
Here are some ways that you can invest in yourself:
- Allow yourself to “pause”. Take a breather, meditate, or even do a deep breathing exercise to help center yourself.
- Set realistic goals for yourself. Make them attainable and short-term, that way you will be more driven to accomplish your goals.
- Allow yourself permission to express your feelings. Whether they be positive or negative, you are human and your emotions are 100% valid.
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7. Surround yourself with the family and friends you love and who love you
Surround yourself with positive people who are going to bring meaning into your life. Be available to those who want you in their life and also that you want in your life.
Don’t waste time pursuing people that will not make the effort to have you in their life. Believe me, I learned that the hard way and I was not happy with how situations were. I finally made the decision to put myself as a priority and ended those toxic relationships that have hindered me from creating the fulfilling life that I want.
Get rid of those toxic people in your life and be unapologetically you. You deserve to have people that will push you to succeed and motivate you to be your best self.
8. Be spontaneous
Nothing makes life more exciting than being spontaneous. Spontaneity is what makes your life meaningful. It is where we create our most fond memories and fun experiences.
So take that road trip, ask that person out on a date, do that thing that you always wanted to do because you may never get that opportunity again. Being spontaneous creates opportunities for a fulfilling life.
9. Dream big and be bold (create a Bucket List)
This ties in closely with the previous tip. Life is short and we are not guaranteed a full life. Take advantage of now and start making those dreams come true.
Create a bucket list of things that you dream of doing in your life, even if it’s small. Branch out of your comfort zone.
Be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
10. Love the journey
No matter what or struggles that you go through, always remember that your journey is unique. Despite the problems that you may face, make sure that you enjoy the journey that you’re on. Life is a process that we are constantly trying to learn and grow from.
Take every opportunity by the hand and appreciate all of the blessings that have come your way. Don’t let life’s obstacles hinder you from living the life that you created for yourself.
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Until next time,
These are all great reminders for when you are going through a tough time. Thanks!
Always be looking at the positives through tough times. Stay safe!
What a great post! Thanks for sharing these tips.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Fab article and totally agree with the list. Thank you
Thank you!